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Daveinth

Daveinth

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Wednesday I got notice that a former employer of mine who I also considered a friend took his life. The only clues as to why left was financial burden . He left a wife and three kids . He was a very good person but for some reason felt this was his only way out .I want to stress to you that if you ever in your life feel so pressured by the ups and downs of life that you would consider something like this please call your friends , your spouse ,a parent , sibling , a health care provider , or anyone you feel comfortable with and talk to them . They may not be able to solve all your problems but suicide is never a way out . This friends family is left wondering why he did it they are hurt and wondering what they have done to make his life so miserable that he felt this was his only way out . His children will never again get to hug their father . His wife will never get to kiss her husband good night. His parents will never enjoy the company of their son. So while it may be your way of ending your problems you are only creating more hurt and sorrow for the ones who love you most . Many of us think we are to intelligent to consider this but this man was the most intelligent person I have ever met in my life so none of us are to smart when it comes to mental illness . This is an illness that effect thousands of people every year . Please talk to people if they do not have the answers you need they can help guide you to the person who can help you get these answers . Thank you for reading this please take it to heart if you ever have any thoughts like this .
 

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I too lost a close friend to suicide two years ago. A veteran and a college professor he had been in poor health for some time, but in many ways still seemed much like the guy I had been friends with for 45 years. I second guess myself all the time, wondering if there had been something I could have done to help. I think of my friend every day.
 
I too have lost a friend to suicide in the last year. He was 28 years old when he decided to take his own life. I had lunch with him just 2 months prior and he had been attending my church. He had alcohol trouble and had been in and out of rehab for it. I guess that burden became too much for him. I know his family well and hate to see them have to go through such a difficult thing. Thoughts and prayers to you and the family of your friend.
 
We've had 3 friends in the last year and a half have kids take their lives. Horrible, horrible feeling, and something that you never recover from. So sad to see young people with so much of a burden that they feel no way out of. Thanks for the note; it was very heartfelt and well said. My condolences.
 
From an old HR guy: if you have an employee benefit called an EAP (employee assistance program)and need it, USE IT. If you don't, talk to HR, senior management or whoever and encourage them to institute an EAP benefit. It is cheap to implement, absolutely confidential and typically at no cost to employees. Trust me, over my 40 years as an HR exec, I've seen it save many lives. By a mile, the best benefit I've ever had the privilege to manage.
Thanks for the post.
 
This is a little off subject.......but a little over a month ago I lost my love of my life-soul mate-best friend in a car accident. We were in Ca. on hwy 1 when she left the road, rolled the car twice and hit many trees. I came out with several bones in my hand busted and a couple ribs. MY FRIENDS I WITNESS HELL. I tried to stop the bleeding but didn't help. She died there. I will never be the same...We meet in our last class at State 37 years ago and been married 35 years. PLEASE EVERYONE, HUG YOUR LOVE ONES EACH TIME YOU LEAVE AND THE FIRST TME YOU SEE EACH OTHER, TELL THEM HOW MUCH YOU LOVE THEM, OVER AND OVER......cause you just don't know...................................
 

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nwi stater said:
This is a little off subject.......but a little over a month ago I lost my love of my life-soul mate-best friend in a car accident. We were in Ca. on hwy 1 when she left the road, rolled the car twice and hit many trees. I came out with several bones in my hand busted and a couple ribs. MY FRIENDS I WITNESS HELL. I tried to stop the bleeding but didn't help. She died there. I will never be the same...We meet in our last class at State 37 years ago and been married 35 years. PLEASE EVERYONE, HUG YOUR LOVE ONES EACH TIME YOU LEAVE AND THE FIRST TME YOU SEE EACH OTHER, TELL THEM HOW MUCH YOU LOVE THEM, OVER AND OVER......cause you just don't know...................................
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Wow... No words.

Thoughts and prayers with you sir. I can't imagine. Thank you for sharing with us, that is certainly heavy and a lot to carry. The Sycamore Pride family is a good group of folks, I am sure many will be lifting you and your entire family up.
 
nwi stater said:
This is a little off subject.......but a little over a month ago I lost my love of my life-soul mate-best friend in a car accident. We were in Ca. on hwy 1 when she left the road, rolled the car twice and hit many trees. I came out with several bones in my hand busted and a couple ribs. MY FRIENDS I WITNESS HELL. I tried to stop the bleeding but didn't help. She died there. I will never be the same...We meet in our last class at State 37 years ago and been married 35 years. PLEASE EVERYONE, HUG YOUR LOVE ONES EACH TIME YOU LEAVE AND THE FIRST TME YOU SEE EACH OTHER, TELL THEM HOW MUCH YOU LOVE THEM, OVER AND OVER......cause you just don't know...................................
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My goodness, I'm so sorry for your loss. Words cannot assuage the pain you are feeling, but I will pray that God will somehow show Himself to you and hold you in His hand as you deal with this. Your advice is not only hearfelt, but painfully relevant to each of us. Thank you for taking time to remind us how important it is to tell those we love that we love them.

I'm so sorry...
 
So very sorry to hear of your loss. As said before, no words to convey the sadness when I read of your lifelong loved one. May God provide some peace to you, and thank you so much for your reminder about all of our loved ones.
 
nwi stater said:
This is a little off subject.......but a little over a month ago I lost my love of my life-soul mate-best friend in a car accident. We were in Ca. on hwy 1 when she left the road, rolled the car twice and hit many trees. I came out with several bones in my hand busted and a couple ribs. MY FRIENDS I WITNESS HELL. I tried to stop the bleeding but didn't help. She died there. I will never be the same...We meet in our last class at State 37 years ago and been married 35 years. PLEASE EVERYONE, HUG YOUR LOVE ONES EACH TIME YOU LEAVE AND THE FIRST TME YOU SEE EACH OTHER, TELL THEM HOW MUCH YOU LOVE THEM, OVER AND OVER......cause you just don't know...................................
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Oh My God brother. Peace be with you.
 
nwi stater said:
This is a little off subject.......but a little over a month ago I lost my love of my life-soul mate-best friend in a car accident. We were in Ca. on hwy 1 when she left the road, rolled the car twice and hit many trees. I came out with several bones in my hand busted and a couple ribs. MY FRIENDS I WITNESS HELL. I tried to stop the bleeding but didn't help. She died there. I will never be the same...We meet in our last class at State 37 years ago and been married 35 years. PLEASE EVERYONE, HUG YOUR LOVE ONES EACH TIME YOU LEAVE AND THE FIRST TME YOU SEE EACH OTHER, TELL THEM HOW MUCH YOU LOVE THEM, OVER AND OVER......cause you just don't know...................................
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My thoughts and prayers are with you . Sorry for your loss
 

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Dave and NWI, words can't really express enough for either one of you, but my lifetime experience tells me that talking about these tragedies is certainly a start. It appears that suicide is no stranger to a few of us and I am no exception, I have lost 4 friends to suicide throughout my life and I find it the most unexplained of all the life experiences I have dealt with. NWI, my heart just agonizes for what you must be going thru and I can only hope you have a strong support base that is helping you thru this awful tragedy. I think Dave, you and I are relatively close in age which probably means you have that support and believe me, if I didn't have a truckload of friends, I'd be lost if I lost a loved one. Again, thoughts and prayers to both of you and Dave, your thoughtful thread is one that I hope EVERYONE does read.
 
My prayers and condolences go to those who have lost friends and loved ones.. I also lost t a friend of 50 years to the recent flash flooding in central Indiana. Give those who are close to you a hug and tell then you love them or just say thanks for wing my friend. We are never guaranteed tomorrow. That's why my wife and I in the 47 years we have been married, we have never gone to bed angry with each other.That may sound corny to some, but it's worked for us.
 
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