Should you spank your children?

[SycamoreStateofMind]

Clearly this video is very much over the top - in fact I've never seen abuse like it caught on video in this fashion.

What are your thoughts on the video?

What is your overall opinion of spanking your children?


I'm not a parent, one day will be - I don't personally feel strongly one way or another.

Actual footage the judges daughter posted on youtube.com

 

[IndyTreeFan]

Let's be clear - that video did NOT show a spanking. That video showed a sick pair of adults beating the hell out of a handicapped kid...

 

[True Blue]

As a former investigator for child protective services, that would be inappropriate discipline/abuse. You can spank your children in Indiana. You can't leave marks or bruises that last more than 24 hours.

Also, why does the commentator make an uninformed comment that the guy is obviously a right winger? I'm a "right winger" and I don't beat my kids or wife. My dad is a right winger and he didnt beat me, my brother, or my mom.

 

[SycamoreStateofMind]

Let's be clear - that video did NOT show a spanking. That video showed a sick pair of adults beating the hell out of a handicapped kid...

Thanks for making that clear - the video is abuse, however the video prompted me to ask the question. I think one could argue that simple spanking could lead to child abuse - not in all cases, it's not fair to say because a dad or mom spanks their kid that it will lead to abuse.

 

[Sycamore Proud]

That is criminal and should have been treated as such.

 

[Daveinth]

Raising my kids I can count on one hand the number of times I spanked the three of them combined. That being said I was raised to respect others and if you did the crime there would be consequences not a beating at all but enough of a reminder that if I screwed up I would pay for it . I took much worse beatings from my siblings LOL . I believe there is a time that a SPANKING is needed but usually the threat of one is just as useful as the spanking . I believe if it ever comes down to the need for a spanking there needs to be some nurturing and lessons taught after the fact. What I mean is a discussion on why it was necessary to get to that level . Trust me the kid will understand what it is that they have done wrong if the after discipline discussion happens and never allow the kid to think you did it just to demean him or her but to make them understand why it was done .

 

[IndyTreeFan]

Raising my kids I can count on one hand the number of times I spanked the three of them combined. That being said I was raised to respect others and if you did the crime there would be consequences not a beating at all but enough of a reminder that if I screwed up I would pay for it . I took much worse beatings from my siblings LOL . I believe there is a time that a SPANKING is needed but usually the threat of one is just as useful as the spanking . I believe if it ever comes down to the need for a spanking there needs to be some nurturing and lessons taught after the fact. What I mean is a discussion on why it was necessary to get to that level . Trust me the kid will understand what it is that they have done wrong if the after discipline discussion happens and never allow the kid to think you did it just to demean him or her but to make them understand why it was done .

Excellent. Spot on...

 

[nwi stater]

Trueblue, I too was a CPS for Lake Co. dpw before my teaching career, there's a big difference in spanking and beating. Yes I did spank my kids bare handed....and knew when to stop. One's a teacher and the other a pilot.

By the way I still like a spanking from the wife!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:bigsmile:

 

[Gotta Hav]

By the way I still like a spanking from the wife!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:bigsmile:

Stater, I think that's appropriate behavior between husband and wife, as long as you aren't begging for the spanking!!!




Founding Member of the SPOFC.

 

[hans1950]

Raising my kids I can count on one hand the number of times I spanked the three of them combined. That being said I was raised to respect others and if you did the crime there would be consequences not a beating at all but enough of a reminder that if I screwed up I would pay for it . I took much worse beatings from my siblings LOL . I believe there is a time that a SPANKING is needed but usually the threat of one is just as useful as the spanking . I believe if it ever comes down to the need for a spanking there needs to be some nurturing and lessons taught after the fact. What I mean is a discussion on why it was necessary to get to that level . Trust me the kid will understand what it is that they have done wrong if the after discipline discussion happens and never allow the kid to think you did it just to demean him or her but to make them understand why it was done .

This post says it all,pretty much fits my experience also......

 

[BankShot]

I watched the video for 5 sec...the "judge" should sentence himself to a few dayz in prison alongside inmates with SIMILAR taste(s) to understand the inhumanity of his behavior. What a savage beast...

 

[bent20]

I don't know that spanking is that common anymore, but the grab a kid by the arm and jerk some sense into them tactic seems to work too.

 

[sycamore tuff]

Raising my kids I can count on one hand the number of times I spanked the three of them combined. That being said I was raised to respect others and if you did the crime there would be consequences not a beating at all but enough of a reminder that if I screwed up I would pay for it . I took much worse beatings from my siblings LOL . I believe there is a time that a SPANKING is needed but usually the threat of one is just as useful as the spanking . I believe if it ever comes down to the need for a spanking there needs to be some nurturing and lessons taught after the fact. What I mean is a discussion on why it was necessary to get to that level . Trust me the kid will understand what it is that they have done wrong if the after discipline discussion happens and never allow the kid to think you did it just to demean him or her but to make them understand why it was done .

I have an uncle who kept us in line, not by spanking but the threat of one of those discussions. They lasted forever. We wished he would have just taken a switch to us. That being said, parents should perform some type of discipline on their kids when the need arises. Some kids respond to a spanking, some to talks, some to having their favorite toy taken away. Whatever the discipline delivered, it should be given in love for the longterm well being of the child.

 

[Sycamore Proud]

This post says it all,pretty much fits my experience also......

Ditto!

 

[Eleven]

I have spanked my child... probably had to do it about 4 times... if you say you are going to do it and follow through with it, you really don't have to do it all that often. The spanking was always a last resort and ALWAYS followed with a talk making sure that the reasons were understood and that everyone knew how much we all loved each other. I really think that spanking is acceptable if done correctly - and that includes NEVER spanking while the parent is upset.

Clearly that video does NOT demonstrate a "spanking".

 

[Sackalot]

That is not spanking at all. That is just so far over the top that it defeats the purpose.

As a parent of 4, I can tell you that some kids respond to taking something away, some respond to a stern look and some only respond to the immediate form of discipline that comes from a spanking (swat on the rear end). It is about knowing your children, understanding what will work with each child. I have a son that only responds to immediate discipline, I have a son that if I look at him with a stern look...he stops immediately and asks what he is doing wrong so we have a discussion about it...it just depends. The key is not loosing your cool.

I will however, say that, I did as a child get the "BELT" from my father. I did get the good ole' State Fair yard stick from my mother. I used to think the only reason we went to the state fair was to get several yard sticks because she broke 5-6 a year on my ass. And I turned out just fine. Not saying it is OK to do this today or that this video is in anyway acceptable. I am only saying that our kids are stronger, more resilient and able to deal with more than one might think.